Are You Facing Your Fear – Pt 2

Are You Facing Your Fear – Pt 2

I shared a post that I wrote last week with my mastermind group and, surprisingly, it received a lot of interest.  Why? Because everyone relates to the fear we face trying to build successful businesses.  Whether you are just gathering the courage to strike out on your own or you have been at it for a while, at some point you will have to know how to prevent fear from stopping you from going after your dreams of building a successful small business.
 
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All of our fears fit into one of three simple categories:
 

Fear of Change

Few people enthusiastically embrace change. Change means that we can never settle in and coast.  We cannot decide we know all there is to know and just slide into a comfortable default mode. The ability to welcome change is what will fuel our ability to succeed in the small business game.
 
I have seen lots of entrepreneurs who were afraid of technology, for example. They allowed that fear to stop them from upgrading their websites, learning to use an autoresponder or e-mail marketing software or from using simple tools such as email properly. I have had clients tell me there was no way they could learn fairly simple technology
systems that would give them more time and make them more money. Once I walked them through step-by-step, each one ended up admitting that their fear was unwarranted.
 

Fear of change can also stop usfrom leaving a dead-end job and starting a business. It can stop you from outsourcing tasks you should not waste your time doing. We all tend to talk ourselves into accepting what is so we can avoid making profound and often uncomfortable changes.

 
Where is fear of change stopping you?
 
The truth is that stagnation is boring and constant change is the reality of life whether we like it or not.  Why not learn to embrace it? Figure out where change is in your best interest and in the interests of your future success and do what is beneficial rather than what is comfortable.
      
 

Fear of Failure

This is a big one that can manifest in many ways. It could appear as fear of not having enough money to start a business, or fear of not being able to make a substantial living as an entrepreneur. It could manifest as a fear of looking bad to family and friends if the business fails.  It could manifest as a fear of lacking financial security.
 
There is always some risk inherent in owning a business. If you have weighed the risk and it makes sense to take it, then you need to look at you fear of failure, write down the worst that could happen, decide how you would deal with it and then go all out for your dream, knowing that the worst is unlikely to happen. I have experienced a failed business and the failure was painful, but less so than the fear I indulged in before it happened. And what I learned from the failure was priceless.
 
Are you spinning your wheels, not moving forward with plans to start or grow your business because you are afraid to fail? Are you going to let that fear keep you stuck with unfulfilled dreams for financial freedom and living the life you choose?
 

Fear of Success

You may be thinking, "that is crazy–who would  be afraid to be successful?" Many people are and they do not even realize it.  Here are some of the "fear of success" comments my clients have made:
 
"No one in my family has ever made a lot of money."
 
"I just cannot find the time to grow my business"
 
"If my business grows, I will be overwhelmed and have no time for my life".
 
"I am analyzing different ideas and do not know how or when I will actually start".
 
"I have to be careful not to take any action that might end up being a bad decision or poor choice."
 
If any of these sound familiar, you may be afraid of success.  I know that it is difficult to admit that you are afraid, but we all are so you are in good company.
 
Remember that fear is very often False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear is usually just a string of negative thoughts that repeat over and over in your head. Once you become aware of them, you can change them or move forward anyway because they will loose their power to determine your actions.
 
Remember, if you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.
 
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About Online Biz Boomer Babe

Rachel Lavern is a Certified Business Coach and founder of My Booming Online Business--a blog for middle-age, global, uptown women. She is on a mission to transform entrepreneurs' finances by teaching the action set, mindset and skill set needed to get launched + make money.

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  1. donna merrill
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    Hi Rachel,

    Over the years I have turned my fears into challenges. It didn’t happen overnight, but I worked hard at it. I’m not afraid of change, in fact, I embrace it. To me it is just another challenge in my life and challenges keep me on my toes, so I welcome it. People often ask me how can you just pick up and move to a place where you don’t know anyone? Answer: It’s an adventure.

    Same applies to business. Although technology is not my strong point, it is in fact distressing at times, I’ll give it a shot. If it is too time consuming, then I will hire someone to do it for me. Not from fear, but from a business decision. Time is money! lol.

    There are many that do fear success. It does sound silly, but I’ve met those who are. They do have to work on themselves when this happens. Addressing the issue is the half way point, then work on it. Sometimes it is so deep in the subconscious they do need someone to help.

    As long as we address our fears, and do something about it, there is no stopping from what we can accomplish.

    Thanks for raising this issue Rachel,

    -Donna
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  2. WILLIAM OTOOLE
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    Hey Rachel! it has been a while since I have seen your blog.. It’s looking awesome!

    Fear is a funny thing… Most of us fear failing but yet we need to fail in order to move on up the ladder.. Kinda like riding a bike.. you don’t stop just because you fell off a few times.. You keep on going..going….going.. Until something just fits right and then the fear drives you on without you even realizing that your doing it.
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  3. The Food Curator
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    Rachel, Nice post! It is important to face fears and overcome them especially in business. Fears hold you back but you must know that anyone can overcome them with the right support and guidance!
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  4. Heather
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    I have had the fear of change for a very long time. However, with the help of anti-anxiety meds, I seem to be getting better. I know and understand what causes my fear. It is the process of moving on that I struggle with. Great post!
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  5. It seems strange that the same person could fear both failure and success, but I think that’s actually a big reason for the high stress level that entrepreneurs often find. I think a lot of it is rooted in procrastination. On the one hand, you fear failure because then you need to move on to something else. So you put that off by staying a “path to success”. But, if you succeed, then you have to step up and address new challenges and obligations. That might cause, as you point out, overwhelm and overwork. So the sweet spot, so to speak, is not allowing yourself to fail, while never pushing on to success.
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  6. For me, moving forward in spite of fears is what works. I’ve been able to do that in a lot of areas but there’s one that I still hang on to. That one is a fear of failure in a certain area. It takes every ounce of energy I have just to think about acting in spite of it.