55 Airtight Alibis for Underachievers

55 Airtight Alibis for Underachievers

We create excuses to make us feel better.  They fool other people, they offer relief from blame, and we use them as badges of honor.  But, in reality, excuses only numb our pain.I am currently facilitating a workshop using Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. In preparing for a session, I reviewed Hill's "55 Famous Alibis by Old Man If".
 
Hill said:

People who do not succeed have one distinguishing trait in common. They know all the reasons for failure, and have what they believe to be air-tight alibis to explain away their own lack of achievement.
 
A character analyst compiled a list of the most commonly used alibis. As you read the list, examine yourself carefully, and determine how many of these alibis, If any, are your own property.

  1. If I didn't have a wife and family…
  2. If conditions around me were only different…
  3. If everybody didn't oppose me…
  4. If I could get a job…
  5. If I could just get a "break"…
  6. If I could just get started…
  7. If I could live my life over again…
  8. If I could marry the right person…
  9. If I could meet "the right people"… 
  10. If I could only do what I want…
  11. If I could only get out of debt…
  12. If I could save some money…
  13. If I dared assert myself…
  14. If I did not fear what "they" would say…
  15. If I did not have to work so hard…
  16. If I didn't have a "past"…
  17. If I didn't have so many worries…
  18. If I didn't have to keep house and look after the children…
  19. If I had a good education…
  20. If I had been born rich…
  21. If I had been given a chance…
  22. If I had enough "pull"…
  23. If I had good health…
  24. If I had money…
  25. If I had not been born under the wrong star…
  26. If I had the personality of some people…
  27. If I had the talent that some people have…
  28. If I hadn't failed…
  29. If I hadn't lost my money…
  30. If I lived in a big city…
  31. If I lived in a different neighborhood…
  32. If I now had a chance…
  33. If I only had a  business  of my own…
  34. If I only had embraced past opportunities…
  35. If I only had somebody to help me…
  36. If I only had time…
  37. If I only knew how…
  38. If I were not so fat…
  39. If I were only free…
  40. If I were only younger…
  41. If I were sure of myself…
  42. If it were not true that "what is to be will be"…
  43. If luck were not against me…
  44. If my family understood me…
  45. If my family were not so extravagant…
  46. If my talents were known…
  47. If nothing happens to stop me…
  48. If other people didn't "have it in for me"…
  49. If other people understood me…
  50. If other people would only listen to me…
  51. If people didn't get on my nerves…
  52. If people weren't so dumb…
  53. If the boss only appreciated me…
  54. If times were better…
  55. And the greatest of them all: If I had the courage to see myself as I really am. I would find out what is wrong with me, and correct it. Then I might have a chance to profit by my mistakes and learn something from the experience of others, for I know that there is something wrong with me, or I would now be where I would have been If I had spent more time analyzing my weaknesses, and less time building alibis to cover them.

 

Ouch…a handful of these alibis kicked me in the butt (If I could live my life over again, If I had enough "pull", If I had the personality of some people, If I only had embraced past opportunities).  We humans tend to create explanations of why we fail, and then we cleave to them. We can overcome such excuses fir by taking personal responsibility and changing our confessions to reflect what we really want.  


What about you? Do you have any alibis hanging in your closet?

 

signature

About Online Biz Boomer Babe

Rachel Lavern is a Certified Business Coach and founder of My Booming Online Business--a blog for middle-age, global, uptown women. She is on a mission to transform entrepreneurs' finances by teaching the action set, mindset and skill set needed to get launched + make money.

Comments

  1. They did me too, Rachel! I haven’t read these in forever. Thanks for the reminder 🙂

  2. Great list of excuses. I feel better when I admit I don’t know it all. It allows myself the opportunity to learn and grow.

  3. Somewhere I read we have our reasons or our results. That was my kick in the butt. There were a few on this list that still sneak in- shows up as legitimate regrets. I’m sure once someone sees this disempowering thought they are ready to move forward.

  4. A couple of these really got to me, Rachel. “If I only had time” is almost a mantra for me these days but when I catch myself thinking/saying that I remind myself that I am in charge of my time and can create spaces to do what I want.

  5. You caught me with some of these. Yes – we all need the courage to figure out what’s wrong with us and figure out our way around the obstacle blocking our success

  6. Ouch….I think there are a few of these I keep handy……Need to kick them out and start achieving more.

  7. Hi Rachel,

    Wow…what a list that describes people who will be stagnant. I believe that anything we set out to do…especially when it comes to business starts with our thinking patterns.

    I do feel blessed after reading this because I never had those kinds of thoughts. All those Ifs’ are like stop signs.

    You did save the best for last! We all have weaknesses and we cannot analyze them ourselves all the time. That’s when we need to hash things out with an unbiased person. A therapist, life coach…someone professional. I say this because I do it myself.

    -Donna
    Donna Merrill recently posted…10 Top Sources Of Blog Traffic That You Are Not UsingMy Profile

  8. Hi Rachel

    What a great list of excuses and you got my attention with this list. It is sad, how a few words affect our thoughts which affects our actions and has a profound effect in our lives. Thanks for sharing. Take Care
    ikechi recently posted…Why Your Weakness is an AssetMy Profile