In this post I will continue to address the five main mindset changes that I believe entrepreneurs should make. There were actual several mindset changes that I had to change in order to be successful as an entrepreneur, and some of them were very difficult to change because of my deeply embedded mental conditioning. You can read Part 1 here and then pick up at the third mindset change:
Mindset Change 3: It is All Figure-out-able.
I borrowed the word, figure-out-able, from Marie Forleo because I love it. Whenever you find yourself stuck, just put Google to work for you. Google has a great search engine that helps us discover lots of things. The idea that you want to see come to life or the challenge you have in your business, or that thing you want to create need not stump you. If your Google search is not helping you find finding the information you’re looking for, then tap into your network or community. Be willing to let go of the fear of admitting that you don’t know it all already. Reach out to friends, family and colleagues and say, “I don’t know how to do this. Do you have any resources for me?”
Have you heard of the six degrees of separation? You will discover it is real once you start reaching out for support. Have you read Richard Branson’s amazing book, Richard Branson Business Stripped Bare? He writes,
Success in life never comes from inaction.
As long as you get moving, the universe bends to support you.
Mindset Change 4: The Outcome is Guaranteed.
We are all going to die one day. The big question is, what are you going to do with your time here? What are you going to do with the time you have left? Are you going to give us the complete gift of who you are and what you want to create in your business?
Why is this a mindset shift? Because when it comes to being an entrepreneur–when it comes to stepping into your greatness and taking your creative dreams out into the world–NOW is the time to do it. Many of us get caught up thinking, “Ah, you know what? I want to do that but I’ll do it next year” or “I’ll do it next month” or “When I have more time…” It is wonderfully freeing because, when you get that, you actually start behaving in a way that supports everything you are up.
Guess what? From the moment that you are born, you’re already dying. We just don’t know the when. When you really get that, when you really understand that everyday that you get closer to dying every day, you start operating in your world just a little differently. You start treating things, such as people and projects that you are passionate about, with a bit more urgency.
Of course, that doesn’t mean that you operate from stress, nor should you become frantic or go into overwhelm. Furthermore, it does not mean that you are so focused on getting ahead that you forget the important things. Quite the contrary. It brings everything into clear focus and gives you this awesome launching pad from which to operate on a real and immediate basis.
Why would you not play full out, not pursue your dreams, and not operate in your life as though everything matters? Are you going to grow your business or create products and services that make a difference? Will you build your business in such a way that you are providing for your family? How can you start recognizing that you are not going to be here forever? And can you use that as a catalyst to fully be engaged in everything that you are up to in every moment?
When it comes to your business, recognize that you are here for a reason so those creative dreams that you have and those gifts that you have to offer are valuable and yours alone. Don't steal that from the world. Let us have it. We want that from you. We want all of you—your attention, your creativity, the things that you’re going to express into the world.
Mindset Change #5: Learn the Distinction Between Engagement and Enduring
I would like that as my new mantra because most of us endure our way through our business and life. No matter what the task is in front of us or what request is made of us–whether a phone call or email comes in, or a friend or a spouse makes a request of our time–many of us have an instant “no” that pops up as though we haven’t orchestrated our businesses to be exactly the way they are. When you do things that you resent doing or you kind of dig your heels in and do them half-hardheartedly–that is called ‘enduring.’
You actually become the victim of your life and you do things from a place of resistance and resentments. It is like completing a task in your mind but your energy is “I don’t wanna.” Of course, it takes 10 times longer than it should. There’s no satisfaction. It is a total buzz kill and (this is the most important part), shows disrespect to your clients, customers, and anyone who you are dealing with. This is also a surefire method to ensure that you are miserable. Probably a fantastic way to destroy your business. Lastly, it is also a fabulous technique if you want to kill your relationships. If you want to be broke, miserable, and alone, definitely endure your way through life.
Engagement, on the other hand, is when you fully take on whatever you are doing in the moment like you came up with the idea in the first place. That is key. This is taking ownership of it. Even if someone made a request of you, you take it on as though it were your idea and you are going to have a great time doing it. Whether you are creating a new marketing piece, responding to an email or writing a chapter of your book–it does not matter. The secret is to do it through engagement, not through enduring.
Do you have teenagers? When my son was 16 years old, he went through a phrase where he was really resistant to anything that I asked him to do. For example, I would ask him to take the trash out and instead of, “Sure, mom!” and go straight for it, I got, “Ha, fine!” And he’d stomp into the kitchen, knocking the trash over in the process of pulling the bag out, then slam the door behind him. This was his way of demonstrating that he didn't want to be bothered and “Don’t make requests of me”. I recall having conversations with him about this very thing–engaging versus enduring. I said, “You know, when I make a request of you and you do it in that way, it doesn’t feel good and it totally negates the help that you have supposedly provided.”
I'm a lot better at this than I once was because all of this stuff was once invisible to me. It was though I was going through my life and it felt challenging without my knowing why. I had no idea about these concepts or these distinctions. Once you start bringing these ideas into your awareness and you actually take a look at them in your life, you get control and power about how you are creating in your business. Look for anything in your creation process that you are enduring and cut it out.
How do you cut it out? Look, if you have a hot potato in your hands, you just literally drop it, right? There is not a how-to. You just do it. If you discover when you are creating something new in your business from this moment forward and you are in enduring mode, stop. Don’t beat yourself up for having gone there. Just shift into engagement. To endure anything is absolute madness because this is your life. Your options are:
- complain about it
- resist it
- endure it
…and life’s going to suck.
Or engage, make it your idea and have a good time doing it. Not only will your results be 10 times better, but your life is exponentially better because you are actually there for it. Whether you’re taking out the garbage, writing your book proposal, sending out an email blast, or creating something on paper, engage with it like it really matters and like you’re going to win and I guarantee you will.
Your goals are worth any necessary mindset changes. YOU are worth it.
Remember: Simple mindset changes change everything.
P.S. Of course, there are several other mindset changes for entrepreneurs; however, I'm not writing the book yet 🙂